I write in cafés all over the world about mastering your time, mind and sleep. As a Café Person since I was 11, I’ve christened my blog The Neo Café— for your dose of Mastering Your Psychological Capital, my signature blend of cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology and ancient wisdom– in plain English for busy high-performers like yourself who want quick and thorough solutions. My work’s available in 41 languages, and here’s how we can partner together.
Many clients tell me they need to worry or something bad will happen. The truth is, some of us like to worry. It is a comforting ritual because it gives us something to do. Like that old soft toy we hug, it’s something we’re so used…
Many close friends often tell me I’m good at entertaining myself. I had never really thought much about my practice of noticing sunsets, seeking out art, and hugging random animals, for instance, apart from the fact that I enjoy it and it makes my…
Seeking growth is a great thing. Anything from deeper emotional awareness to healing to new habits can help us become better people, content in ourselves and building stronger relationships. But we also run into people who seem to be seeking growth— or at least…
We often ask,“Why doesn’t she just leave?”. It is a question that protects those who have never been privy to an abusive situation. It makes the abused seem to be of another ilk altogether, and thinking “I would just leave if it were me,”…
Many people tell me they have accepted something that’s happened, whether that’s a loss, a traumatic childhood, significant change in their health, or something else.
But what I’ve found is, just because you say something verbally or want to accept it, doesn’t mean that acceptance…
Lately I’ve been seeing the meme, “Jonah Hill isn’t the hill you want to die on” going around, as he wielded therapy speak in order to be emotionally manipulative. In case you missed it, he packaged disapproval of his ex-girlfriend’s clothing and friends as…
No matter how smart or capable you are, you may somehow have found yourself in a relationship with a toxic person. Narcissist, psychopath, machiavellian, sociopath. Or a Molotov cocktail of some of the four dark personality types.
In fact, the enlightening book Women Who Love…