I write in cafés all over the world about mastering your time, mind and sleep. As a Café Person since I was 11, I’ve christened my blog The Neo Café— for your dose of Mastering Your Psychological Capital, my signature blend of cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology and ancient wisdom– in plain English for busy high-performers like yourself who want quick and thorough solutions. My work’s available in 41 languages, and here’s how we can partner together.
My clients joke that I specialise in two types of problems— Rich People Problems (referencing the third book in the Crazy Rich Asians trilogy) and Overachiever Problems. Each group is curious about the unexpected problems the other faces— we believe that each other’s world…
For the bulk of my life, I lived with the Sunday Scaries. I thought I was alone. With my mental ball-and-chain, I dragged my feet into Miserable Mondays, whether as a student or an adult. Luckily, that’s history.
Sundays have now been reclaimed; Mondays are…
June 2016. The policewoman at the domestic abuse shelter looked at me and said “You’ve got to leave soon. You’re at medium risk of homicide or serious bodily harm.” I gulped. I’d played down everything in answering her questions; I knew I had to…
Plenty of things are technically a good idea, easy enough to execute. In isolation, and in a perfect world, sure. I could do 20 different tasks in deep focus. But in reality, not quite. Especially when you have ADHD.
Let me give you the most…
My client Greg tells me, it’s shameful that he has “no routine apart from the work and family obligations. Everyone thinks I’m doing really well, but really I’m struggling deep beneath”. I tell him that I feel him. That when left to my own…
Picture yourself coming into contact with a saber-tooth tiger. Your brain’s limbic system—the primitive part of your brain wired for survival—flips into fight-or-flight mode. Maybe you’re strong and have weapons, so you fight. Or maybe there’s no way you’ll survive that, so you run…
While many of us know about the narcissist who loves any kind of attention, there’s an equally fascinating counterpart—the Echoist. That’s right, the same echo you hear when your voice bounces back in an empty room or a cave.Echoism is sometimes considered the opposite…